Tenderness

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http://youtu.be/hoPg8qtYh7o

Tenderness for a minute

Monthly Meditation - June 2011

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JUNE 2011

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us

We ask ourselves, 

who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?

Actually, 

who are you not to be?

Nelson Mandela

Look inside yourself

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"A beggar had been sitting by the side of a road for over thirty years. One day a stranger walked by.
- Spare some change? - mumbled the beggar, mechanically holding out his old baseball cap.
- I have nothing to give you - said the stranger. Then he asked:
- What´s that you are sitting on? -
- Nothing - replied the beggar - Just an old box. I have been sitting on it for as long as I can remember.-
- Ever looked inside? - asked the stranger.
- No - said the beggar - What´s the point? There´s nothing in there.
- Have a look inside - insisted the stranger.
The beggar managed to pry open the lid. With astonishment, disbelief, and elation, he saw that the box was filled with gold."
"The Power of Now" Eckhart Tolle

Monthly Meditation - May 2011

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  MAY  2011

Always ask ourselves our true intention

before turning it into action


Sheik Khaled Bentounés

Reverse Psychology

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http://youtu.be/wsBon3DTwIY

Reverse Psychology at is purest...

It´s great!

Defeating Fear

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"Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She did not want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle. The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went towards fear, prostrated three times, and asked,

"May I have permission to go into battle with you?"

Fear said, "Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission"

Then the young warrior said, "How can I defeat you?"

Fear replied, "My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don´t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don´t do what I say, I have no power".

In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear"

"When things fall apart" Pema Chödrön

Parents, those great masters

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There is a strong tendency that says that we choose our parents before birth. I neither affirm nor deny it. I just do not know if it´s so.
Being elected or not, there is no doubt that parents are very important figures in our lives. As a friend of mine says: "They take up so much room", referring to a mental and emotional room. And it is true, throughout our existence they are subject of much love, much hatred, resentment, admiration, lack of understanding, loyalty, pain, despair, gratitude, forgiveness,  love again... It´s amazing the whole variety and intensity of feellings that these two important persons can cause in us.


I do not know if we choose our parents; but I do know that they are there, wether alive or dead, absent or present. They are there, they live in our cells, our thoughts, feelings and reactions. They are alive in our prejudices and in our values. They are our first teachers and possibly the most relevant ones we may ever have.

I do not know if we choose our parents; but what I do know is that for me to be me, this unique and unrepeteable being, can only come from this father and this mother; moreover, they are the only possibility for my very existence. Out of all the endless possibilities there is ONLY one that is true. And this miracle of uniqueness is not only true for me but is also true for every single human being.

Have you ever thought about the whole lot of "coincidences" that have to occur in the lifes of your parents, grandparents, great grandparents, and so forth, only for you to come into being? How many unique beings, unique situations, exact times, specific places, all of them involved in the creation of a sole human being: you. And this occurs to all and every one of us.

It looks as through this constant "uniqueness" Life graces us and reminds us of the miracle and importance of our own existence. It seems as if supported by factual evidence, Life whispers in our ear: "Yes, you are wanted too".

It moves me and fills me with respect.

Passionately in love

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"Wherever you may be

whatever situation you may find yourself in,

try always to be a person in love,

a person passionately in love"

Djalâl-od-Dîn Rûmî

Remember

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SOMETIMES

WE FORGET

OUR ANIMAL INSTINCT

AND WE GET LOST...

This morning, in the street

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An elderly man leaning on his cane, and walking very slowly, half-limping, comes across an older woman who has no problems walking.                                                                   

- "Good morning, Carmen" he says politely
- "How are you doing?"* she asks
- "Well...as far as 'walking' is concerned, not too good, but I´m fine" he answers with humor 
- "Yes, it´s the same for everyone" she says sighing
- "No, I¨M OK; what happens is that my walking is not good" he insists, smiling
- "That´s life!" she says with a sigh of total resignation.
And both say goodbye (of course!)


This is not a joke, it is often our everyday reality. We are so often immersed in our own conditioning that we do not hear, don´t see, do not understand or do not perceive anything that does not match with our preconcieved idea of what reality has to be.
What is worse is that we then complain of loneliness, of misunderstanding, of anything, but of course we do not change our way of seeing the world, and of course the world does not change for us.
* Playing with words: in Spanish we say "How are you walking?" (¿como andas?) meaning "how are you doing?".

"When things fall apart" Pema Chödrön

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This book fell into my hands at a time when its title and my life situation were absolutely interchangeable. Fortunately, the contents of the book shed light on my perception of the situation and how to approach it, so I am very grateful to this "heart advice for difficult times".

Pema Chödrön, Buddhist nun, very commited to her path, warm, loving and sympathetic to human weakness, suggests clues to cope better with chaos. She aims you to perceive chaos as an opportunity to recognize and face, with no fear, the impermanence and constant change of life, instead of rapidly seeking a solid basis on which to rest again.

It is quite interesting and a real challenge.

I leave you with some thought-provoking words of the book:

"It is not a terrible thing that we feel fear when faced with the unknown. It is part of being alive, something we all share. We react against the possibility of loneliness, of death, of not having anything to hold on to.
If we commit ourselves to staying right where we are, then our experience becomes very vivid. Things become very clear when there is nowhere to escape."
"When things fall apart" Pema Chödrön

Related Posts: Defeating Fear

Love

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Photo by Gregory Colbert

When Heaven wants to save a human being

sends him love

Lao Tse

                                      

Gaining Perspective

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It´s very possitive to gain perspective from time to time. It´s interesting to realize that we are very important, but at the same time insignificant unless we can see ourselves as an integral part of everything else. We are not outside Nature, or other animals or plants. In other words, we are not alien to the rest of the universe. Quite the contrary, we are part of a whole and it is precisely in that being part of a whole that our greatness emerges.

We often forget that we belong to Life, to Nature. We forget that our place is in there. Because we forget, this loneliness, a sense of isolation and fear of "all out there" appears. It is this illusory presumption that we are the center of the universe that causes our loneliness and it is where our greatest absurdity lies.

The good news is it´s all a phallacy. A mere invention of the ego to think that so by we  become stronger. Just a bad dream based on a phallacy.

When the I cries because it has lost,

essence laughs because it has found

Abu Said

"Creativity and Fullness of Life" Antonio Blay

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Antonio Blay Fontcuberta is one of those authors that I love reading because you realize that everything he says comes from his own experience. What he is telling you is the product of years of serious research and testing in himself and others.
I like the way he writes, clear and straight to the point, and I have always found his teachings very helpful.

Antonio Blay Fontcuberta

"Creativity and Fullness of Life" ("Creatividad y Plenitud de Vida") is not a book to be read lightly, but is rather one of those books you should read again and again, finding new meanings each time. You can also use it as a reference book.
Blay is a precursor of positive thinking and its materialization in the physical world. As the author says: "we will try and study in special way a fundamental capacity of human being, that of producing changes in his existence". And he goes on to explain clear and concisely, both theoretically and in practice, steps that lead us to achieve  that fullness that we seek in our life.
To finish off I quote a paragraph from his book and invite you to think about it:
"Everything that exists, as it exists and functions, it is an expression of the mind. The mind is what gives shape to things. Even what we call ideas already exists as forms in the mind. These forms in the mind are the ones that will materialize as physical forms later. All physical forms have its corresponding matrix in the idea, in the mind".
"Creativity and fullness of life" Antonio Blay

Discipline, Flexibility and something else

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Love and compassion always find a way to embrace

everything harmoniously 

That produces much joy and comforts the heart

"Rel-aCCion-Arte"

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I insisted that the blog title and URL coincided. At first I did not know how hard the task was going to be: "sorry, this blog address is not available", and again and again... And the fact is that, although it was not available, I liked that "relacionarte" as the heading, because the very word itself suggested to look at relations as an art.Then I thought, if a put aside the spelling and tried adding a "c", google would be smart enough to still locate me and my favourite heading would not have lost its initial charm, it would more or less be the same.
And so I did it. It wasn´t the same, it was even better!. At last, it was accepted, and without renouncing nor to "relationships" nor to "art" a new word emerge: "action" and with it the true meaning.

Photo by Gregory Colbert

If you wish to make an art out of your relationships you must first be willing to do things to the best of your ability with love and great respect. This consideration and care in your relationships depends on a deliberate and conciencious action on your part, so that the outcome will be more positive and harmonious. It is through the exercise of this deliberate and conciencious action, which undoubtedly requires an effort, as we gradually aproach in making relations into an art.
This is an interesting approach as it breaks through conditioning and helps me to find my true self.
With this blog I start this path today, if you wish to accompany me, I am delighted to have you on board!