Reverse Psychology

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Reverse Psychology at is purest...

It´s great!

Defeating Fear

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"Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She did not want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle. The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went towards fear, prostrated three times, and asked,

"May I have permission to go into battle with you?"

Fear said, "Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission"

Then the young warrior said, "How can I defeat you?"

Fear replied, "My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don´t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don´t do what I say, I have no power".

In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear"

"When things fall apart" Pema Chödrön

Parents, those great masters

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There is a strong tendency that says that we choose our parents before birth. I neither affirm nor deny it. I just do not know if it´s so.
Being elected or not, there is no doubt that parents are very important figures in our lives. As a friend of mine says: "They take up so much room", referring to a mental and emotional room. And it is true, throughout our existence they are subject of much love, much hatred, resentment, admiration, lack of understanding, loyalty, pain, despair, gratitude, forgiveness,  love again... It´s amazing the whole variety and intensity of feellings that these two important persons can cause in us.


I do not know if we choose our parents; but I do know that they are there, wether alive or dead, absent or present. They are there, they live in our cells, our thoughts, feelings and reactions. They are alive in our prejudices and in our values. They are our first teachers and possibly the most relevant ones we may ever have.

I do not know if we choose our parents; but what I do know is that for me to be me, this unique and unrepeteable being, can only come from this father and this mother; moreover, they are the only possibility for my very existence. Out of all the endless possibilities there is ONLY one that is true. And this miracle of uniqueness is not only true for me but is also true for every single human being.

Have you ever thought about the whole lot of "coincidences" that have to occur in the lifes of your parents, grandparents, great grandparents, and so forth, only for you to come into being? How many unique beings, unique situations, exact times, specific places, all of them involved in the creation of a sole human being: you. And this occurs to all and every one of us.

It looks as through this constant "uniqueness" Life graces us and reminds us of the miracle and importance of our own existence. It seems as if supported by factual evidence, Life whispers in our ear: "Yes, you are wanted too".

It moves me and fills me with respect.

Passionately in love

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"Wherever you may be

whatever situation you may find yourself in,

try always to be a person in love,

a person passionately in love"

Djalâl-od-Dîn Rûmî

Remember

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SOMETIMES

WE FORGET

OUR ANIMAL INSTINCT

AND WE GET LOST...

This morning, in the street

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An elderly man leaning on his cane, and walking very slowly, half-limping, comes across an older woman who has no problems walking.                                                                   

- "Good morning, Carmen" he says politely
- "How are you doing?"* she asks
- "Well...as far as 'walking' is concerned, not too good, but I´m fine" he answers with humor 
- "Yes, it´s the same for everyone" she says sighing
- "No, I¨M OK; what happens is that my walking is not good" he insists, smiling
- "That´s life!" she says with a sigh of total resignation.
And both say goodbye (of course!)


This is not a joke, it is often our everyday reality. We are so often immersed in our own conditioning that we do not hear, don´t see, do not understand or do not perceive anything that does not match with our preconcieved idea of what reality has to be.
What is worse is that we then complain of loneliness, of misunderstanding, of anything, but of course we do not change our way of seeing the world, and of course the world does not change for us.
* Playing with words: in Spanish we say "How are you walking?" (¿como andas?) meaning "how are you doing?".